{"id":1525,"date":"2017-11-07T12:42:36","date_gmt":"2017-11-07T17:42:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.angelashornstudio.com\/blog\/?p=1525"},"modified":"2017-11-07T12:42:36","modified_gmt":"2017-11-07T17:42:36","slug":"in-suspense-and-incomplete","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.angelashornstudio.com\/blog\/?p=1525","title":{"rendered":"In Suspense and Incomplete"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"There was, once upon a time, a period of my life that was quite turbulent, or at least it felt quite turbulent to me at the time. It felt as though whatever I was going through had never happened before in the history of humankind. But my mother, in her wisdom, gently said to me, \u201cthere\u2019s nothing new under the sun,\u201d quoting from the first chapter of Ecclesiastes. I don\u2019t think she said this to downplay what I was feeling, but rather, to help me understand that we all share in this experience of living on earth and to take comfort in knowing that what I was feeling and thinking had been felt and thought before \u2013 that someone had lived through (and survived) what I was living through. This is, after all, the reason we read (or should read) the great stories of humanity, why we study history, and why remembering is important. When these stories are lost, forgotten, or erased, we lose something of ourselves. And we lose an opportunity to think and act with generations of experiences (both the good and the bad) behind our actions, rather than with only our limited lives and perspectives as guidance.<\/p>\n

Yet I still find myself alternating between feeling that the world is falling apart in a way that it never has fallen apart before, and thinking that, well, it\u2019s just falling apart in new ways. Or perhaps it isn\u2019t falling apart. Perhaps the world is merely suspended in an ongoing cycle of decay and new growth, just as I am keenly aware of my own new ways of falling apart as I age, even as other aspects of life are constantly enriched and ever growing. I am suspended and spinning. Losing some things, gaining others.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been thinking a lot about the idea of \u201csuspension\u201d recently as I\u2019ve had to put down my horn because of an injury I sustained back in May that has refused to heal the way I hoped it would. It became clear last month that the only thing to do was to stop playing for a while, give my body time and space \u2013 and to surrender to the idea that there IS time and there IS space for all of this. So, I feel myself completely suspended and without certainty. I don\u2019t mean to be melodramatic. It is, after all, just a horn. Not a body part, not a loved one. But at the same time, I can\u2019t deny that this is what I have worked for most in my life, what I\u2019ve poured myself, my time, my dreams, my resources into, and it is unsettling to feel somewhat stripped of that identity for a while. \u00a0I have every reason to believe that I will recover, but I would be lying if I said there is no voice inside that sometimes asks \u201cwhat if it doesn\u2019t come back?\u201d or \u201cwhat if I\u2019m never quite the same?\u201d<\/p>\n

At the same time, it is also true to say that I am depleted from the efforts of the summer and early fall, when I tried to rebuild from this injury that had never quite healed in the first place, and there is a certain amount of relief in thinking of other things. And so, I sit and do projects with my son. We are crocheting together these days and folding origami cranes and ninja stars (his favorite). I go for walks each day, feeling myself simply as a person walking, rather than as someone on a mission. I have my wonderful students to teach, who themselves teach me so much.<\/p>\n

One of my students recently said to me that she felt she had so much catching up to do. I understood why she felt this way, as this is how I often feel. But what if we changed the metaphor? What if we recognize that, no matter where we are in life, we always will feel a certain amount of incompleteness. There will always be something needing to be done. It\u2019s the nature of living. What if I embrace my own unique path, embrace my own pace, and find a place to rest, even while suspended in midair?<\/p>\n

I think often of the words of Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, given to me by a friend and mentor during another unsettled time of my life. I will leave them here for you \u2013 and for myself. Even if the religious language does not resonate with you, perhaps the idea of the last two lines will infuse you (as they do me) with a feeling of being at home, even within a state of flux and uncertainty, and help you to \u201caccept the anxiety of feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Patient Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n

Above all, trust in the slow work of God.<\/p>\n

We are quite naturally impatient in everything<\/p>\n

to reach the end without delay.<\/p>\n

We should like to skip the intermediate stages.<\/p>\n

We are impatient of being on the way to something<\/p>\n

unknown, something new.<\/p>\n

And yet it is the law of all progress<\/p>\n

that is made by passing through<\/p>\n

some stages of instability \u2013<\/p>\n

and that it may take a very long time.<\/p>\n

And so I think it is with you;<\/p>\n

your ideas mature gradually \u2013 let them grow,<\/p>\n

let them shape themselves, without undue haste.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to force them on,<\/p>\n

as though you could be today what time<\/p>\n

(that is to say, grace and circumstances<\/p>\n

acting on your own good will)<\/p>\n

will make of you tomorrow.<\/p>\n

Only God could say what this new spirit<\/p>\n

gradually forming within you will be.<\/p>\n

Give our Lord the benefit of believing<\/p>\n

that his hand is leading you,<\/p>\n

and accept the anxiety of feeling yourself<\/p>\n

in suspense and incomplete.<\/p>\n

-Peirre Teilhard de Chardin, SJ<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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